What’s Up With The Mentalist?

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I’ve been watching The Mentalist on CBS and while it’s been fun there are some things that go beyond reality. I know many experts in the area of subconscious influence and being able to read people. The Mentalist seems very scripted (which is what Hollywood is good at).

Being able to read people is important in many areas and not just Hollywood. If the show was real, then many people would have picked up on the way the actors use their body language or are influenced, not just what is supposed to happen from a script.

There are many areas of the subconscious that are not even being taught and most hypnotists and NLP Practitioners even know about. You see, the there are many secrets that the most powerful influencers do not want you to know.

In the show The Mentalist, he would instantly know what a person was thinking or even what he or she did. There are real people who have similar skills, though they are not referred to as mentalists. There training comes from specialized areas of psychology and hypnosis.

One of my mentors, Dr. Wil Horton, is a trained clinical psychologist, Master Hypnotherapist, and NLP Master Trainer. He has taught many people the skills of hypnosis and NLP through his workshops worldwide. He knows what he is talking about and uses these skills on a daily basis.

When influencing someone’s subconscious mind, you’ve got to know what to do and how to do it. That’s one of the reasons I want to recommend his course, The Psychology of Subconscious Influence to help those that want to develop some of the skills seen in the show The Mentalist.

Before you check it out, I want to give you some basic pointers when it comes to influencing others. One being is to connect on an emotional basis, making sure that you fully understand their values and beliefs. Even expert influencers cannot get through to someone if they don’t understand another persons values and beliefs. Think about it, how many times have you seen people who have beliefs about their religion or their political party? It’s really hard to overcome those beliefs, isn’t it?

If you want to know more on influencing and reading people like The Mentalist (and even beyond that) go to Subconscious Influence.

Have fun and keep challenging yourself to learn and grow more.

Stop Stealing You Thief!

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I hope that headline grabbed your attention. It’s not as bad as you think it is. The important thing is that you have an understanding of what I meant by that headline.

One of the areas of neurolinguistic programming (NLP) that excited me and taught by Tony Robbins is that of modeling. You can be successful by modeling other people who are successful. That’s right, if somebody else has done something successfully that you want to do, then do what they did in the same way.

Modeling is like a blueprint on how to do something. Frank Kern (founder of Mass Control 2.0) described how he took some aspects of extremely successful authors and incorporated it into his own writing. He stole their system of writing (it’s really borrowing).

Direct response copywriters model more successful copywriters by reading and studying how they crafted each advertisement or sales letter. Most will keep what is known as a “swipe file.” You can do the same kind of thing by keeping your own “swipe file” in all areas of success.

One of the areas of modeling that you can use is discovering somebody else strategy. That’s where discovering their blueprint on how they do something using NLP techniques will help you.

Many times I’ll help my clients do that by installing the strategies of somebody successful into them. Basically, you’ll start from the beginning of how a person thinks and acts when start to do what they are successful at. You want to find out what primary modality they use at a given point. You then duplicate it.

Good practice can come by watching video clips of successful people when they are at the top of their game. Watch how they move and what they say. Break down each modality that you notice.

Sometimes you may have to go to the actual person and ask them how they became successful. Ask what they did at each step. Listen for words that describe what modality they are in.

Have fun with this, okay? If you need someone to help you through this or just some coaching don’t hesitate to ask.

Celebrating Veteran’s Day

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Originally started as Armistice Day (to celebrate those who served during WWI) on November 11, 1919 by President Woodrow Wilson and a resolution passed by Congress in 1926, Veteran’s Day helps to celebrate all veterans who served our nation proudly. On May 13, 1938 Armistice Day became a legal holiday.

Al King, from Emporia, Kansas came up with the idea that Armistice Day should be a celebration of all veterans who served. On May 26, 1954, President Dwight D. Eisenhower signed into law delegating as honoring all veterans. On November 8, 1954 Armistice was replaced with “Veteran.”

So as we get up today, reach out and touch someone who served in our Armed Services and thank them. It does make any veteran feel good to have done so when others acknowledge it.

234th Anniversary of the United States Marine Corps

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I can still remember celebrating the 200th Anniversary of the Marines when I was still in. Now here it is 34 years later and I still feel that solid hold that having served in the Marines being part of me.

Started on November 10, 1775, the United States Marine Corps has served in every major battle and many smaller ones throughout the history of the United States. From being called “Leathernecks” to “Devil Dogs” the Marines have stood out as a fierce fighting force. In fact, the name “Devil Dogs” was given by the Germans during the Battle of Belleau Wood. On June 6, 1918, GySgt Dan Daley lead his Marines by saying to them “Come on you sons of bitches, ya wanna live forever?”

The Marines fought so fiercely that the Elite German Troops from the Crown Prince described them as “teufel hunden”, or hounds from hell. Today the Marine proudly carry that description as “Devil Dogs.”

In McLean, VA – the Marine Corps War Memorial depicting the flag raising at Iwo Jima serves as reminder of what the Marines have done throughout history.

As we celebrate all the men and women of the Marines that have served and continue to serve, let’s salute that service.

Personally, I am grateful to have been one of the “Few and Proud.” OOOOORAH!

Stop Judging and Start Listening

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Here’s something that most of us have done wrong many times in our lives is communicating. A lot of times we try to input our own viewpoints into conversations and lot understand what another person is really saying. Even when we let them talk, we may look at what they are saying from our point of view.

That’s being judgmental. We may not believe that, but it is true. Anytime we interject our values and beliefs into any conversation it is a judgment. You can change this by learning active listening skills.

Active listening comes from the viewpoint of empathy. You can do this by fully understanding another person’s values and beliefs. Paraphrasing what a person has said also will help you understand them and let them know that you working towards that. We think we may be helping somebody by giving advice thinking that they will want it, but that’s not really helping them from their point of view.

By truly listening to the other person from a non-judgmental point of view, only then can real communication take place that will help them.

This also applies to parents and couples. There are resources over the internet regarding active listening.

The Amazing Formula For Communicating Straight From The Heart In Your Relationships

Parenting Secrets By a Mother Of Five

Get Yourself Moving All Day to Stay Fit

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Getting fit is not just working out one time a day at a gym. A big part of it is moving throughout the whole day. If you only worked out one time a day at the gym and then sat a desk working on your computer without doing movements throughout the day, then you may end up with a bad posture. This is due to the way we sit at a desk and typing on the computer.

Also our abdominal area will tend to sink forward as our posture is bad. To alleviate this, get up and move around with good posture. Focus on keeping your spinal alignment straight with your abdominal area drawn in and your shoulders relaxed and slightly back.

Moving throughout the day will also help keep your metabolism up. Make sure you eat high quality food too. Our bodies were meant to move. The hunter-gatherers did this for survival. By moving, your stress levels will also drop.

If your are stuck at a desk all day, then stand up and do some chair squats (where you squat onto your chair) for about 20-25 reps 5 times a day. You can do some desk pushups: 10-15 reps 5 times a day. The most important thing is that you move, okay?

Even before you eat lunch do some simple exercises for about 5 minutes. The squats and pushups will only take between 1-2 minutes. A little walk afterwards will also help. Have fun too.

Keep this in your mind, fitness is moving your whole body as well as eating right. Live your lifestyle as a fit and healthy one. Think about what it means to be fit and healthy and just do it.

Isn’t Time to Start Thinking Rationally?

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According the latest FBI stats there has been an upsurge in mass killings in the last few years. While crime overall has dropped, mass killings have increased. Many of these killings have been from people who have acted irrationally.

Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT), stated that many people who has a belief that is irrational has some activating experience that led to the belief which eventually led to an “unhealthy emotional consequence.” Beliefs can be classified as either irrational beliefs (IBs) or rational beliefs (RBs).

The recent shootings in Texas and Florida are examples of people whose beliefs were irrational which led them to do what they did (consequence). Each had their own activating experience or adversity. In Pavlov’s studies, such activating experience can be looked at as a stimulus which led to the response (S-R). In NLP we call it a trigger.

In order to think rationally, you must be able to step back and look at certain triggers in your life and evaluate them for what they are. Rationality comes when we look at our beliefs as within us and not caused by something outside. Beliefs leads to a behavior and that is always inside each person. Nobody can cause us to have a behavior. When we look at it that way, then we are thinking rationally. Once we identify each step, then we can change it from irrational to rational by thinking differently. It is our thoughts that starts the whole process which eventually will lead to an outcome.

So isn’t time to start thinking rationally?

It’s Time You Got Up and Started Moving, NOW!

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Recently I had a conversation with several teenagers that were overweight. They told me that they had trouble losing weight and wanted to know how. I asked them what are they doing now. Their answer was nothing. They all admitted that they ate wrong (including drinking a lot of sodas). And they didn’t do any exercise.

The Marine side of me wanted to jump down their throats, but the therapist side kinda took over. I basically told them that they had to eat high quality meals and start moving. What I meant by high quality meals were that what they ate had to serve a quality function for their bodies. All calories taken in had to be useful. They should be full of nutrients and amino acids that will help the body to grow healthy, including their cells being able to multiply in a healthy way.

I also told them to get off their duff and start moving as much as possible. Now I explained to them that they didn’t have to go to a gym or anything. All they had to do was move their bodies to the point that they used it in a functional way. Cleaning their house and doing yard work all counted towards the movement. Heck, they could find a movement activity that they would enjoy doing. Dancing is great for that.

If you want to lose weight start eating healthy, high quality meals and moving your body. Move all day and eat all day. Make sure you eat a very good breakfast to help kick-start your metabolism, okay?

Doing both is important. Our ancestors did that on a regular basis. It will also help to relieve stress and anxiety, especially the movement. So start moving NOW!

The Mass Confusion That Dominates In Fat Loss & Fitness Today

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By Rob Poulos, Fat Loss & Fitness Expert & Creator of ‘Fat Burning Furnace’

People are confused more than ever about how to burn fat. They are confused about the best way to go about achieving the body they want. They are confused about what works and what doesn’t, and the reasons why. There are countless individuals slaving away in gyms and fitness centers around the country right now.

They are working tirelessly, almost every day, on the treadmill, stair-climber, elliptical, etc. to burn those calories and fat. They also might be lifting weights several times a week for hours at a time to build some strength and muscle. They might even join a few aerobics or spinning classes too.

They are probably also trying one of the latest diet strategies that promises miracle fat burning and weight loss. They could also be spending a lot of money on the latest and greatest dietary supplements that could be that miracle pill that will aid in weight loss. They are also carefully watching the scale as their main judge of fat loss progress.

If it goes up a pound or two, they may behave rashly and maybe even change up their entire workout or diet program! And of course there are others are doing variations on that same theme.

After all, this is the kind of stuff that many of the popular fitness and diet gurus typically recommend to burn fat. But with so many different strategies and plans being pushed as the be all and end all, what happens is we tend to overboard.

And when that happens, we lose sight of what really matters in achieving lifelong fat burning, fitness and health…the principles than many people don’t know about, most people have forgotten, and only a select few put to use to achieve lifelong health and fitness. These are the same principles I used to drop over 40 pounds of unwanted body fat, keep it off, and revitalize my life!

With any exercise or nutrition program, you’ll probably lose some fat initially, but far too often the progress doesn’t continue or doesn’t come as fast as the person would like because they’re using a temporary mindset. They’re only focused on the short term and one specific goal. So they end up switching to something else, and the cycle continues until they’ve become consumed by this cycle of confusion.

I believe that this is one of the biggest, if not the #1 reason for the lack of fat loss and fitness progress that is being experienced by the masses of exercisers and dieters in the world. They are jumping from one fad diet or exercise routine to another, while losing sight of what’s really important, and what really works.

Simply put, they are exercising far too much, not nearly intensely enough, and trying to adhere to unrealistic diet recommendations.

If instead they focused on a long term plan, a lifestyle as it’s often called, and didn’t worry about “losing 10 pounds by summer”, they would find it far easier to do the right things most of the time.

And those right things include brief, progressive, and intense resistance training, eating a diet full of nutrient rich foods, drinking tons of water, and getting plenty of quality sleep and rest. The students of my Fat Burning Furnace method understand this and are reaping the life long health and fitness rewards because of it. Are you?

Claim your free copy of Rob Poulos’s “7 Secrets Of Permanent Fat Loss & Fitness” at his website: http://www.fatburningfurnace.com

Rob Poulos is a celebrated fitness author, fat loss expert, and the founder and CEO of Zero to Hero Fitness. Rob created the world’s most efficient method for fast and permanent fat loss with his “Fat Burning Furnace” system to help those looking to put an end to restrictive fad diets, long boring cardio workouts, and the need for super-human willpower for good.

Keep Focused on Your Dream While Living in the Present

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While I am a proponent of having a dream and setting a goal to reach it, I also believe that we need to stay in the present. Sometimes people will focus too much on their dreams and lose contact with the moments in life.

It is also those moments that will help each one of us to reach our dreams. Based on the plans you made to reach a dream, focus on what is happening right now that is important. If you tend to dream too much, then you may never take the necessary actions. And those actions are very important. Things just won’t happen without taking the steps you need to take. Living in the present and being aware of what you need to do will keep you on the right path and gain momentum.

Yes, keep focused on your dreams. Those will give you something to shoot for. Make sure they have a purpose. That will give you power to want to reach it. And live in the present to take the necessary actions as well as experiencing the moments.

Have fun as you strive to reach a purposeful dream.